Four moves to stop making in your relationshipAll couples have their rough moments. Fights, missteps, and miscommunications will happen. It is unrealistic for our relationships to be blissful 100 percent of the time. Yet, some relationships dip into the negative too often. This can leave both partners with ongoing stress which is not healthy or satisfying. Read more.
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Getting your relationship back on trackMarriage and Family Therapists are trained to bolster a client's sense of agency. We immerse in the art and science of holding space and asking direct and important questions. We carry deep compassion and acceptance no matter what it is that is being shared. In general, effective therapy is not advice laden. Read more.
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Are you in a low sex marriage?When couples first meet, generally they have as much sex as they can. From an evolutionary perspective, humans are wired to find a partner, mate, and raise offspring. High interest at the start of a relationship creates a positive feedback loop in which sex releases good feeling brain chemicals. This promotes bonding and a desire to have even more sex. All of this serves to keep our species alive. Read more.
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How to stop fighting and start connectingAll couples fight. But what happens before, during, and after a fight can make a huge difference in the long term happiness of the couple. If you are fighting more often than you would like to be, or if you cannot seem to find your way back to connection after a fight, keep reading to learn more. Read more.
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Is infidelity a deal breaker?Discovering your spouse has been unfaithful can be devastating. Healing and repair may seem unattainable. Deciding what to do next can be consuming. Slowing down, and engaging in growth work, may be the best place to start. Read more.
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The pledge that turned things aroundSometimes, without being aware of it, couples can end up saying or doing things that hurt the relationship. It may be subtle, such as with tone or body language. Pledging to stop making small negative comments can turn everything around. Read more.
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Turning towards your partnerHave you ever noticed that when your spouse makes an attempt to re-engage with you after a fight, through humor or affection, that you sink into your resentment even more? This is what John Gottman calls turning away. The simple act of turning towards your partner, instead of turning away, can change everything in a marriage. Read more.
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Trusting your spouseTrust is a curious construct. We either feel it or we don't. Sometimes there is an inner sense that things are wrong, but we can't quite put our finger on what the source is. Or experiences from our past make it difficult to trust anyone. This is a post for anyone who genuinely believes their partner is faithful but fears from the past threaten to sabotage the relationship. Read more.
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Mindfulness as a couple, after baby is bornAccording to John Gottman, marital satisfaction plummets after the birth of the first child. Lack of sleep, drastic change in schedule, financial concerns, and the demanding task of caring for a newborn all contribute to this. Mindfulness offers numerous benefits to relationships and may even prevent marital distress. You and your man can put baby to sleep and get started today. Read more.
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Improving intimacy after kidsIt can be hard to find time to connect and feel close to your spouse when consumed with children and careers. Learn how to create connection with ease. Read more.
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