Private Relationship Coaching for Couples
I offer private coaching for couples based on Hold me Tight, which is a relationship education and enhancement program developed by Dr. Sue Johnson. This process is offered as an eight session package with each session lasting 60 minutes. Sessions are offered in person at my office in Encinitas, CA or via two way video conferencing. Hold me Tight is a registered trademark of Dr. Sue Johnson.
Session One - Creating a Secure Base
In session one, we begin with identifying goals you have for your relationship or marriage. You will both have the opportunity to share what it is that you want to create in your relationship. Next I provide an overview of attachment theory, which is the science behind love and bonding. We will look at how connection and disconnection impacts your relationship. We end with a process designed to support you and your spouse in becoming more accessible, responsive, and engaged with each other.
Session Two - Identifying Negative Cycles
In session two, I guide you and your partner through a process to explore actions, feelings, perceptions, and thoughts that drive disconnection and connection in your relationship. We will explore any negative cycles that may be occuring in your relationship. Negative cycles look different for every couple but tend to be the source of struggle in love relationships.
Session Three - Finding the Raw Spots
In session three, we will move deeper into understanding the vulnerable feelings that you both experience during times of conflict, fights, or disconnection. This will give you the ability to become more authentic with each other. Together you will identify what you need and want from your partner, during times of disconnection, and be able to ask for this in a way that your partner is likely to respond to.
Session Four - Revisiting Rocky Moments
In session four, you and your partner will take a deeper look at your negative cycle. I will guide you through a process that will assist you in being able to get out of negative cycles. Together you will see it, stop it, claim your moves, claim your feelings, and understand each others feelings. This is a process that you will be able to go through anytime in the future so that you do not get stuck! We will also explore goals and determine if we are on the same page about what you want to get out of coaching.
Session Five - Hold me Tight
In session five, you and your partner will have the opportunity to share fears and needs with each other. This gives you the chance to experience giving and receiving deep support. This process allows you to hold space for each other. Many find that this conversation creates an emotional experience that is bonding as you are there for eachother in a meaningful way.
Session Six - Forgiving Injuries
In session six, you and your partner will have the opportunity to extend and receive forgiveness. One of the fascinating aspects of being in love, and being in partnership with another person for the long haul, is that there will be times you say or do something that results in hurting the other. In this session, I will guide you and your partner through an experience of being able to apologize in a way that is authentic and meaningful.
Session Seven - Bonding Through Sex and Touch
In session seven, you and your partner will have a conversation about sex. You will explore your sexual connection in a safe manner. You will also have the opportunity to ask for If this conversation is difficult for you, we will some time looking at what makes it hard to discuss sex.
Session Eight - Keeping your Love Alive
In session eight, we will begin by revisiting your goals that were established in the first session. You will assess where you are at and come up with a plan to keep your love alive long term. In addition I will guide you exercises that will make it more likely that you and your partner will continue to experience connection, bonding, intimacy, and effective conversation.